My oldest called this morning to tell me that she expects to be in Lamar on March 27th. This means that Ron and I have basically this weekend to get those two rooms ready for her and the grandbaby! I wanted to repaint both rooms, one of them in pink and purple for the grandbaby, but I don't know that it will happen at this point. My granddaughter might have to reside in a blue room as that's the color it was when her Uncle Max lived in there, and that's what it's stayed as our office space. I hope I can make it more inviting for her though as I think my grandbaby's adjustment to all the changes will happen faster if she's comfortable and happy in her space, mmm? I told my daughter that these few months will just fly by, but I don't think she believes me.
I guess my grandsons are going to the doctor today. I thought they had an appointment yesterday, but I guess she was only calling the doc to see if they'd get the babies in. Hopefully Dayton doesn't have this bronchitis the rest of us have been battling. It's some wicked stuff.
We had dinner w/my mom last night. Ron believes we need to step up on spending time with her on weeknights. I call Mom 2-3x daily, never less than 2, so I don't know that I'm as worried as he is. Mom tries to stay "up", she tries to stay in good spirits, and she generally tells me what she's doing every day, who called her lately, what plans she has for the future, and just every little thing. She tells me about her quilting friends, her local comrads, and what bills or bank statements she's dealt with or what she's working on with dad's accounts. She's doing very well with those, btw. I'm proud of her.
Ron thinks that Mom is starting to withdraw a little. I'm reserving my opinion until I have more proof of that. It's normal to be down on occasion when one loses one's spouse, and I don't know that she's withdrawing. I think the adjustment is simply difficult. Ron does see her on occasion where she's tired or bummed, but since I also speak to her in the mornings I know for a fact she isn't that way ALL the time. I do know she's a little spacier at moments, but that comes from being overwhelmed and working through it. I'm also aware that she's pulled away a little bit, but some of that is because she doesn't want to inflict herself on us or be a burden. She isn't, but no matter how many times I tell her such I know she worries that we need a break from her.
Mom told me that she's heard from both of my sisters this week, and from one of her grandsons (not mine). The communications she's been receiving from that lot of late has increased dramatically in the past two weeks. Mom isn't certain what to think of that and she's a little wary, but she's enjoying it nonetheless. It probably doesn't hurt that mom initiated said communications a coupla weeks ago when she called to get my sister's social security numbers to add them as beneficiaries to her Thrift Savings Plan.
Mom recently gave said calling grandson 3 guns she had at her house (I don't know why she's giving things away, but whatever) and grandson called to tell her he'd done some research, and one was from the 1800's. He's a country boy with a policeman daddy and a hunting lifestyle. I have no doubt he'll care for the guns well.
Sis 2 called to tell mom she'd changed work shifts and wouldn't be able to get down to see her this week after all. Mom told me she expects that interest will fade out altogether in time given that the same sis had only been down 1x in the past 4 years prior to dad's death. I dunno. I't's one of those wait and see things. I guess in the meantime she'll content herself with reading my blog for any updates. Last night & this mornings keyword searches from her ISP were bipolar and boss. I'm past the anxiety and don't much care what her searches are at this point. I think my anxiety levels had more to do with the aftermath of dad's passing and the wedding. I feel pretty cool about things now.
My next doc appointment is Monday of next week...Did I ever tell you the results of the last one? I'll have to update one of these days.
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